Who are we?

We are Sarah and Hayley, a nerdy couple living with our pet labradoodle, Arwen. We met at university over 6 years ago and we’ve been married for nearly 2 years now. We’ve always known that we wanted to have children, but the timing hasn’t been right until now. We wanted to wait until we were settled in a house big enough for children and Hayley had finished her PhD. Well, we’ve lived in our lovely home for a year now and Hayley has started work, so the time just seems right.

What have we done so far?

We’ve really taken our time over the whole process. We started looking at and visiting different clinics a year ago just to get a feel for where we would be most comfortable and to assess our different options. We finally settled on a clinic in March and we both underwent tests to measure our fertility. Both of us showed slight indicators for polycystic ovary’s, but nothing too concerning and as we both have regular cycles. We were advised to try IUI treatment first, so once we decided who would undergo the treatment first, we were set to begin.

How did we decide?

When we first visited the clinic, we said that Hayley would undergo treatment first. There wasn’t a particular reason for that, we both knew we wanted to try carrying at some point and at the time, Hayley was at home more writing up her PhD, so it made sense for Hayley to undergo the treatment. Time moved on and Hayley finished her write up and started a job, we still hadn’t made a decision on sperm banks and the results from the fertility tests didn’t give us a clear direction for who should go first. So it all came down to flexibility. Sarah has more flexibility in her work hours and a much better maternity pay package and that was really how we came to a decision.

So have you started IUI treatment?

Yes. This on the 10th October 2017 at 2pm, after a year of looking around clinics and undergoing tests we finally started IUI treatment. It was incredibly exciting and terrifying all wrapped up in one. It felt like we’d been talking about that moment for such a long time, and it was difficult to believe that it was finally here.

So what now?

Well now we wait. After IUI treatment, there’s no way of knowing if it has worked for 14 days. So once you’ve undergone the IUI treatment, you go through the dreaded ‘two week wait’ (TWW), anxiously trying to distract yourself from wondering if it’s worked, overanalysing every twinge or cough and googling ‘early pregnancy signs’ even though you know that it’s far too early to tell. I can test on the 24th October – only 8 days left.